The Big Eyes syndrome

'The girl is nice . She has a good job.Family too , is sweet. The only thing that is missing are big eyes'

Those are the exact words from one of my aunts about a prospective bride for her son.

My family has an obsession with big eyes. Strangely enough , all of us have big eyes . Big eyes of all sizes and shapes -oval , round , bulging , puffy ,deer shaped eyes etc.

My teachers back in school remember me as the girl with the big eyes .
I would often as a child, be an experiment for young girls in JNU to try on eye make up . My mom used to have a heart attack looking at her 4 year old daughter with all sorts of eye shades , eye mascara , eye liners . But to be honest , I sort of ....in a way ...loved that :) Who wouldn't I? C'mon you are 4 years old and people are looking at you...hmmm...i mean your eyes and wondering how to make it look prettier . Those days were too good for my (size 0) ego .Perhaps if it was not for my brother's constant teasings and his remarks about how I shouldn't laugh when his friends were around coz of how ugly my teeth looked back then(yes, I wore braces for a year!), I would have grown up into an annoying,self-conceited,vain,full of myself kind of girl .

Growing up with big eyes has its own pros and cons . Back in school , my friends would push me to the canteen to ask the canteen owner for a free burger . They'd tell me to just blink my eyes a couple of times while talking . And yes it used to work...well not always...but sometimes the plan fell into place!
In the classroom , the boys would call me all sort of names . "Cyclops" is the one I remember so well . I hated being called "cyclops".
I looked up the meaning of this word in the dictionary and this is what it says -
'Any of the three one-eyed Titans who forged thunderbolts for Zeus.'

:(

When the boys in the class sat behind me and just in case their view was blocked...they'd ask me to move my eyes...instead of asking me to move a bit . It is like all they saw in me were my eyes !

And then there were the nice uncles and the numerous aunties who told me how lovely my eyes looked . A few years later, my college friends told me the same including the boys this time .

When I worked in Singapore and Malaysia ...after a couple of months....I noticed that most girls at work had suddenly started wearing a lot of eye make-up. My friends had a good laugh thinking how my big eyes had given them a huge complex,how it was a huge blow to their egos !

Sleeping too ,with big eyes isn't easy just like waking up with big eyes . When people with big eyes sleep in deep sleep , sometimes though very rarely ...their eyes open up a teeny weeny bit. Now that can be scary for some people and cute for others . And don't even get me started about waking up with big eyes ! In one word...it is not very easy .

Last but not the least , it is true that it is easy to read one's mind just by looking into big eyes . I have had major issues hiding my tears , pretending to look happy or sad whenever needed and the worst of all...to LIE. Even if people like us lie and do a good job at it...we think in our heads how the other person must have known that it was all a lie. Eventually we end up telling the truth and at times also end up making a fool of ourselves .

Despite all this...I personally feel eyes...big or small...black ,blue or brown,big or small eyelashes ...it doesn't really matter .

What matters is what brand of eye make up you use !!! :))

On a serious note , it never mattered to me and hopefully it never will .
Eyes just like everything else can be beautiful as long as you are beautiful...but then what is beautiful ?

Beautiful is what appears beautiful to you....as some great man once said ..beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

Cheers to that .